AGONY OF A SINGLE MOTHER; LINDA IKEJI LAMENTS HOW HER BABY’S DADDY, SHOLAYE GOT HER PREGNANT AND ABSCONDED
Linda Ikeji in a protracted put up on her Blog has revealed that her baby daddy is actually Sholaye Jeremi.
Read her put up below;
Two days sooner than my 38th birthday on September 17th, I welcomed my first child, my son, Jayce. I check out him and I ponder why I waited so prolonged to have a child. I’ve in no way acknowledged love like this. I even have tears in my eyes every time I check out him. I can’t contemplate he received right here out of me. He is by far my largest blessing and I’m attempting forward to navigating him by way of life!
Now to the reason why you are learning this. I argued with myself for a really very long time whether or not or to not place this out or not…and ultimately decided it was a story I needed to share. I’ve on a regular basis been open about my life nevertheless I’m sharing particulars about my personal life principally as a result of women who look as a lot as me. The ladies I’ve mentored, mentoring correct now and plan to mentor in the end. I’m very specific about our youthful ladies and I’ve personally tried by way of the years to be an occasion in a roundabout means; tried to point out these ladies one of the best ways to battle for his or her wishes, one of the best ways to reside correct and do correct after which I’m going and have a child out of wedlock and that should be barely difficult to a couple of them and notably with so many untruthful stuff in the marketplace about me. The most hilarious is that I had a child for a married man. Lol. Here’s my reply to that! The married man that I’ll sleep with has not however been born. If he’s been born, he’ll die, be buried, rise and die as soon as extra sooner than he’ll lay with me. I don’t do married males. The father of my child is a single man and his establish is Sholaye Jeremi. To be honest, in the end I believed he was my closing bus stop nevertheless you perceive how life happens…lol. Unfortunately he and I are a very closed chapter. Sadly for our son Jayce, it’s the kind of chapter which will’t ever be opened as soon as extra.
One of the problems many people have requested me is how I met this man because of we don’t run within the an identical circle. Well, I met him Three years up to now at Wheatbaker Restaurant in Ikoyi in December 2015 shortly after I moved to my home in Banana Island, Ikoyi. It was a day after Christmas and I was having dinner with buddies when he walked in. He observed me and the remaining is historic previous. He claimed on the time that he had in no way heard of me which was severely a turn-on for me because of up until then I’d solely been meeting males who behaved like followers. At the time we met, I was 35 and he was 37 and I’d been single for virtually 4 years. I was undoubtedly trying and I fell in love nearly immediately and so we grew to turn out to be an merchandise.
At the time I met him he lived in a 3-bedroom flat at what was fifth roundabout in Lekki after Mobil. I used to drive for almost two hours in guests from my residence to go see him. Most of the time, I carried my laptop computer laptop to his home to permit me to work and on the an identical time spend the whole day with him.
It was a whirlwind romance. He was the funniest and most romantic man I’d met up until that point, so it was easy to fall in love and I actually believed the feeling was mutual. A few weeks after we met, it appeared like we had been planning a future collectively. This man was already calling me Linda Ikeji Jeremi and making all these plans nevertheless then an identical to that, it was over between us. I went from waking up every morning to love textual content material messages from him to no further calls. I was merely thanking God for lastly sending me my very personal man when unexpectedly we had been not talking to at least one one other. Later he would inform me what scared him off. My public life. He claims he’s a personal enterprise man and didn’t want the attention being with me would convey to him and I instructed him I understood and we went our separate strategies. We tried to get once more collectively in 2016 but it surely absolutely didn’t work out loads so we separated as soon as extra nevertheless stayed in touch (principally him to be honest), stayed buddies and that was how our forwards and backwards started.
By mid-2017, we had been every nonetheless single and we started seeing each other as soon as extra quietly. There had been events it was very intense and we talked a few future collectively, and there have been events that I couldn’t work out what exactly I was doing with this man. We weren’t suited to at least one one other. Totally completely totally different existence. And there was the difficulty of my fame. I walked away from this man 1,000,000 events and he received right here after me 1,000,000 and one events. No matter how loads I pushed him away, he saved coming once more and me, because of I couldn’t uncover anyone else, I saved going once more. Lol. So I was primarily going once more to my ex because of I couldn’t uncover anyone else. sigh.
Then I fell pregnant. It wasn’t deliberate, it merely occurred; though we talked about having a child collectively merely two months sooner than I fell pregnant. He talked about one factor about inserting a billionaire baby inside me and I take into accout jokingly telling him that I’m moreover a billionaire so our child was going to be a billionaire on every side…and we laughed. But after I fell pregnant, points grew to turn out to be terribly weird between us. If I tried to make clear what occurred, I wouldn’t be succesful to because of it was difficult to me. We went from talking regarding the being pregnant and being okay with it; he even steered I’m going to Dubai for my pre-natals as he didn’t perception docs in Nigeria, to really not talking to at least one one other anymore. Around as soon as I used to be about three months pregnant, he did come to see my mom and father and actually grew to turn out to be very cool with my dad. They had been truly exchanging Whatsapp messages daily. He later agreed to a traditional wedding ceremony ceremony which he didn’t adjust to by way of after which he switched. He began to cope with me with loads hate and aggression that I and my family wanted to scale back him off totally.
To be honest if anybody had instructed me after we met three years up to now, considering how deeply we cared for each other that I’d fall pregnant two years later and he would totally flip his once more on me for a lot of part of my being pregnant, I in no way would have believed it nevertheless that’s what occurred. I needed to appeal to energy from myself, my family and shut buddies.
And Jayce…oh my son Jayce, he was my largest energy. It was nearly as if he knew his dad was showing up so he received right here by way of for his mum. He was delicate with me as soon as I used to be carrying him. I had an particularly easy being pregnant. I pushed him out under Three minutes and was inside the labour room for decrease than 30 minutes. And then my snapback was excellent. Three weeks later, it was nearly as if I’d in no way been pregnant. Jayce was my soldier when his dad turned his once more.
But nonetheless, I’ve utterly no iota of regret meeting Sholaye. Gosh, have you ever ever seen Jayce? How can I regret that? God doesn’t make errors. If you contemplate that you just’re on a regular basis led by God like I contemplate then I’ve to think about that God led me to this man for regardless of causes biggest acknowledged to Him. I believed God despatched him as my life affiliate nevertheless I assume He merely used him as a vessel for my largest blessing. Now his half in my story is over. I do know when to position my arms up and quit. That God launched any individual essential into your life doesn’t suggest they’re imagined to adjust to you all by way of your life’s journey. We must be taught to know when people’s half in our story is over. Don’t battle for closure, don’t ask for explanations, don’t chase options, merely permit them to go and know that if God meant in an effort to have them in your life, He would have given them to you. Sometimes people merely come to serve a purpose in your life and are often not meant to stay and there’s no stage holding on to them. This one is completed and dusted. It’s merely Jayce and I now shifting forward and I do know life might be beautiful for us.
Being a single mum wasn’t the dream I had for myself; I’d prayed for the kind of snug home my mom and father constructed for us (they’ve been collectively for 40 years). Nothing is further very important to me than family. For years I’d hammered on how loads I was attempting forward to getting married, having children and establishing my family and I believed God was going to return by way of for me on that one, nevertheless I’ve come to know that we have no administration over what life throws at us no matter how loads we plan, pray, or work. And we moreover have no administration over the actions of various people in course of us. One of the problems I’ve learnt in my life’s journey is that your idea of how life must go is maybe completely totally different from the way in which during which life actually goes. It’s referred to as Life Happening. Sometimes it unfolds into one factor we in no way dreamed of nevertheless because of we don’t acknowledge the route we uncover ourselves on our journey by way of life, doesn’t suggest God gained’t get us to our trip spot. Remember, an not sure chapter doesn’t injury the whole book. Life will happen whether or not or not we’re ready or not. All we’ll do is maintain our heads up and maintain shifting.
Family and shut buddies instructed me I owed no one any clarification regarding the circumstances that led to the supply of my son, nevertheless I knew with out penning this, I could in no way stand in entrance of the youthful ladies who look as a lot as me and converse to them as soon as extra. I could in no way go on my secondary school tour and talk with these ladies as soon as extra about residing correct and doing correct. I’d on a regular basis actually really feel like I’ve no moral correct to take motion. I went to 15 secondary schools in 2017 and talking to those youthful impressionable ladies has been one in all many highlights of my life. I cancelled this yr’s tour because of I was pregnant and I haven’t made any preparations for subsequent yr’s tour because of I needed to set points correct first.
I’ve so many plans for young women subsequent yr and inside the coming years with the Selfmade finance and mentorship initiatives with worldwide collaborations, so this was very important for me to do, to make clear myself to the youthful ladies who look as a lot as me and actually really feel dissatisfied that I acquired pregnant and had a baby out of wedlock. For years, I’ve preached decency, morality and uprightness and no matter what occurred to me, I suggest it from the underside of my coronary coronary heart. That must be the one resolution to reside. That’s the one technique I reside. Don’t ever compromise your values. With this, I was led by my coronary coronary heart and my clock ticking and even if I’ve no regrets, I’m sorry if I let any of you ladies down by the selection I made, and I hope you be taught from my experience. I hope you do increased than I did. The final issue might be to find a person you want, who loves you once more and gives you stability, get married, have kids and raise a family, not being a single mum or a baby mama. I was 37 years outdated on the time I conceived and if I should be honest, my age carried out a job in me allowing myself to be pregnant out of wedlock. I don’t should be having kids in my 40s or combating fertility later in life. This wasn’t the plan nevertheless like I discussed sooner than, life happens. You merely want to find an answer to make the easiest of what life throws at you. And so for any youthful girl this suggests one thing to, I’m actually sorry. I’m not sorry I had Jayce, I’m merely sorry I didn’t go about it the correct technique.
But you notice, no matter this crazy love experience, I nonetheless contemplate in love and I contemplate in snug endings and I can’t wait to sooner or later, God eager, have my fairy story ending. The father of my child is the one man I’ve given a possibility to in 6 years. Lol. I swear. I’m unlikely a relationship kind of girl. I’m further a occupation girl. I can go for years and never utilizing a person. I’m a sort of ladies who don’t need an individual to validate their existence nevertheless biko, I’ve carried out the one life ample to this point…lol… going forward I’m attempting forward to giving one other particular person a possibility and do this love issue as soon as extra. I was raised in a cheerful 2-parents’ home and that’s what I would really like for Jayce. So I hope I meet a terrific man shortly until then I’m having enjoyable with motherhood. It rocks! Life has in no way been further beautiful!
I’d moreover wish to deal with quite a few totally different factors. Number one is that this celibacy topic. So many people have trolled me over it and I’d want to proper the misunderstanding. I’ve in no way ever in my life talked about people shouldn’t have intercourse sooner than marriage. NEVER EVER have I discussed that. I’ve even argued with pretty quite a few people who it isn’t doable these days. What I’ve on a regular basis talked about and I protect till proper this second is; Do not ever sleep with males for money because of any woman with a thoughts and dedication can get her private money herself. And there’s nothing sweeter than your particular person money. I’m 38 years outdated and I not too way back bought a N100million+ vehicle; what the heck do you should be sleeping with an individual for? For designer baggage, high-quality tickets and opulent holidays? GTFOH with sleeping with an individual for rent money! You can present your self all that and additional while you apply your self, battle in your dream and work your butt off. Men don’t have the distinctive correct to create wealth; women can also create wealth. Money is simply not male. Wealth is simply not male. Success is simply not male. We women merely have to think about in ourselves further and get off our butts and stop relying on our appears to be and attraction in its place of our thoughts, ideas, will, and our God given experience/reward. We can be rich, we can be worthwhile, we’ll break obstacles, do what was beforehand termed inconceivable, do what males can do, be CEOs of conglomerates and billionaires with out ever having to lie on our backs. Please ladies, we’re extremely efficient previous measure and would possibly do one thing and be one thing we should be.
The totally different issue I’ve on a regular basis talked about is; do not sleep spherical with quite a few males who merely use your physique for his or her pleasure; that is; too many one night stands, casual intercourse, many intercourse companions in a short time interval all inside the establish of relationships. Your physique deserves increased. I actually really feel intercourse must solely happen when you’re in a loving, devoted relationship with any individual you want. I was celibate for a number of years until I met my son’s father and fell in love. And in its place of accelerating my physique rely, I merely went once more to the an identical eggplant…lol. My mistake was I must have walked away when the connection grew to turn out to be a waste…lol… nevertheless then as soon as extra, Jayce wouldn’t be proper right here proper this second if I had. So truly, there’s nothing that I’ve preached that I didn’t comply with. So you guys stop trolling me over this abeg! Lol.
Thank you for learning and thanks in your understanding.
Love and kisses to you and yours
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